In India, it is quite common to live with a single partner for 25 years. However, this may come as a surprise to some from Western countries, where breakups and divorces are frequent and often carry less emotional baggage.

A few years ago, a foreigner visited a college professor for research purposes. While conversing at the professor’s home, he introduced his wife, saying, “This is my wife, Martha. She is a school teacher.”

Curious, the foreigner asked, “How many years have you been married?” The professor replied, “30 years.”

“That’s great. How many times have you been married?” the foreigner asked with curiosity.

Martha quickly went inside the room.

“I have been married once and have lived with Martha for the last 30 years,” the professor said calmly.

“Surprise! Surprise! Unbelievable. To live with a single partner for 30 years,” the foreigner seemed very excited, and he took his camera out of the bag and said:

“Allow me to take your picture. I would like to show your picture to my friends.”

His joy and excitement were similar to seeing a rare human species…!

I read about this incident in a newspaper interview.

Like the professor, I too have completed 25 years of married life. My new book is related to this topic: ‘Find Your Perfect Partner.’

Anyone can find a life partner.

However, finding the perfect partner is challenging and requires conscious effort. Entering into a relationship quickly is an easy path to lifelong regret

Why is the Divorce Rate Lower in India

Several cultural, social, and legal factors contribute to the lower divorce rates in India compared to Western countries.

Here are seven top reasons:

1. Cultural and Social Values

Indian culture places a high value on family and marital stability. Marriage is often seen as a sacred and lifelong commitment, not just between two individuals but between two families. The emphasis on preserving family honor and upholding traditional values discourages divorce.

Example: Many Indian families celebrate wedding anniversaries with great pride, often marking milestones such as 25th or 50th anniversaries with grand celebrations, reinforcing the importance of long-term commitment.

2. Arranged Marriages

A significant proportion of marriages in India are arranged by families. These marriages are typically based on compatibility, social standing, and shared values, which can contribute to their stability. Families play an active role in supporting and guiding the couple, reducing the likelihood of divorce.

Example: In arranged marriages, families often conduct thorough background checks and ensure that the couple has a strong foundation of mutual respect and understanding before the marriage.

3. Social Stigma and Pressure

Divorce carries a considerable social stigma in many parts of India. The fear of being judged or ostracized by society can deter couples from seeking divorce, even in unhappy marriages.

Example: A woman considering divorce might face significant pressure from her community and extended family to stay in the marriage, regardless of personal unhappiness.

4. Legal and Economic Factors

The legal process of divorce in India can be lengthy, complex, and emotionally taxing. Additionally, economic dependence, particularly among women, can make it difficult to seek a divorce.

Example: The lengthy legal procedures and societal expectations often lead individuals to try and resolve marital issues rather than opting for divorce.

5. Emphasis on Conflict Resolution

Indian society places a strong emphasis on resolving conflicts within the marriage. Elders and family members often intervene to mediate disputes and encourage reconciliation.

Example: In many cases, family elders or community leaders step in to mediate and resolve conflicts, promoting harmony and understanding between spouses.

6. Religious Beliefs

Most major religions in India, including Hinduism, Islam, and Christianity, view marriage as a sacred and unbreakable bond. Religious teachings often discourage divorce and promote the idea of enduring through marital challenges.

Example: Many Hindus view marriage as a sacred duty (dharma) and believe that it is their spiritual responsibility to maintain the sanctity of their marital vows.

7. Emotional and Psychological Support Systems

Extended families and strong community networks provide emotional and psychological support to married couples, helping them navigate through difficult times and strengthening the marital bond.

Example: Joint family systems, where multiple generations live together, provide a support system for couples, helping them cope with challenges and reducing the likelihood of separation.

These factors collectively contribute to the lower divorce rates in India and the tendency for many people to stay with one partner for life.